long time not blogging..ngeh3..feel like empty a bit but full in mind to story of...unfortunatelyyyy...i kan pelupa orgnye...ngeh3..so story yg ingat2 je ar...
BTW...ni citer just yesterday..we have our training with our sales manager from singapore...his name is Mr Steven Toh...give him an applause cz memberiku sedikit sebanyak ilmu mengenai parenting...
x de la ape sgt pn but it still an 'ilmu'...ngh recall nih...mula2 sembang2 pasal kerja then tb2 citer pasal wife n anak dia x nak ikut dia dah bila dia outstesen memane...his wife working as account auditor..same as my mami ita lah kot agaknye...tp dia dah x kerja langsung lepas anak kedua lahir..it was back back years ago lah katenye...tp bila anak dah besar dia getting bored a bit...what to do at home especially when the hubby travel here and there...the she ask mr toh utk bekerja semula..dia dpt kerja ngn bos lame dia juge tp semnggu dua hari jeeeee...adus dengkinya gue...eh seminggu dua hari ke sebulan dua hari...x hengat la...tp gajinya 2K sebulan...for only two days working...can u imagine how jealous am i...huhuhu...nk jugak kerja camtuh..2 hari je sebulan pastu dpt 2ribu....tp keje account ni banyak lah kot kan...x kisahlah...asalkan 2 hari sebulan...hahaha...so u hv ur own leisure time with ur family especially with ur kids kan kan kan kan...hehehe...kalau bab x keje ni bagi la kt aku...haha...
ok pastu smbung sembang lagi dia citer anak bujang dia dua org ni da besar...sorang da 16 sorang lagi 14...yg adik tu da ade gf...yg abg tu da besar n ade ego sndiri..mr toh sair "i'm a father that used to kiss and hug my kids evry time, but now he is grown up already..no more public kissing n no more public hugging...oh my god...how kecewa am i..huhuhu...felt so empty..."..itulah dia yg di katakan oleh si mr toh ni...it just shows that..anak2 ni da jadi rmaja dia da jadi lain...dia kate mase yg best sgt mase anak dia umor 3 ke 10 yrs old..u can do what ever u want...u call him he will come to u...u can kiss him can hug him any when..evry where...but now no more..isk3...yg bagusnya dia ni dia diskas ngn kawan2 dia yg lain yg ade grown young boys jga n they all said that is normal...da besar anak2 ni nk jalan seniri x nak dah sibuk nk ngekor ayah n mak dia..hehe...
the best part is he said that he keep on stealing the younger boy HP to get to know what is going on with their youngest...hehe...kelakar btol mase dia cite...derang tahu anak dia ade gf tp x berani nk scold or nk bising2...cuma derang guna pendekatan berbeza la...bila2 ade masa the parents try to explain pasal having a girl in ur life ni cam mane...jgn itu jgn ini...it is just a puppy love..that is why mr n mrs toh ni x risau sgt..cuma takut anak dia x belajar sungguh2 la kot agaknye and takut terrrrrrrrrr lakukan sesuatu kt anak dara org lah kot...pernah 1 time they having dinner together and the father sembang2 pasal life..girlfriend...boyfriend...sex...school...study...married life...tapi mata sang ayah tu pandang sang anak...pastu anak dia ckp camni..."daddy, why are u looking at me huh!!!"...daddy ckp.."oh no no..nothing..i just look at you becoz now u r big already and to make sure u r listening to me..."...hehe...and we in the training room said..."hey Mr Toh...u better careful huh...dont get caught by ur own son while stealing the HP...hehehe..."...
mr n mrs toh ni ckp..."u want computer i give u...u want HP i give u...but the rules u must follows is never shut off ur room and no TV in ur room...but in our room can...hehe..." satu bende yg aku rase nk apply sgt kt en mahdi saya nnt ialah...mummy will give you anything you want provided it is rasonable and mummy ni mampulah yer...hehe..but...say no to tutup pintu bilik ok sayang...never shut the door off ok...mr toh ckp...ye la bila anak dia da besar ni...derang x leh nk suka2 nak masuk bilik boys derang..."daddy..what r u doin i my room...why u touch my things...daddy..dont touch this n that...hehehe"...daddy ckp agaknye anak dia takut daddy akan terosak kan barang derang kot...or derang rase daddy u r too old for this stuff...so that is why daddy create that kind of rules...ok gak tu...sbb dia x leh nk suka2 masuk bilik anak dia...tp dia x kasi anak dia tutup pintu supaya dia tahu ape yg anak dia buat kt dalam bilik...tambahan pula sang isteri tidak bekerja...lagilah boleh tgk2 ape yg anak2 lelaki derang ni buat dlm bilik...tul gak kate mr toh ni...u r parents...u hv ur own rights to create the rules...but mest ade give n take...dia leh provide kat anak2 dia tp syaratnya jgn tutup pintu bilik..so daddy n mummy know what r u doing in the room...yg kelakarnye...daddy n mummy tu plak 10 kali sekejap nk g bilik air...cz nk intai ape anak dia buat dlm bilik...mr toh said "we cannot enter the room but at least we can peep to the romm..."...hahaha every body is laughing..ye lah kan...
yelah kan...cabaran nk jadi ibu bapa ni...bukan org islam je yg rase cuak n risau...tp cina kafir tu pn same juga risau...walaupun kepercayaan derang berbeza tp pendekatan yg digunakan tu for me is logic and can be applied especially to parents who has teenagers...tul x...tul lah tu kot...haha...anak ku baru satu tahun sebulan lebih skket..tp x pe lah kan...timba lah ilmu dulu nk jadi ibu bapa ni nk kene berilmu tul x...hehehe...
cina yg kapir tu pn takut ank dia rosak..ini kan pulak kita yg islam ni...hmm yg mmg yahudi n nasrani kate nk rosakkan..yg mmg iblis kate nk rosakkan anak keturunan adam ni..hmm nauzubillah...anyway....ape yg baik tu leh la diikut...yg mane x sesuai tu..ade mata lihat...ade telinga denga...ade mulut n hati says nauzubillah hi minzalik...ya allah ya tuhanku...Kau peliharalah aku dan keluarga ku dan keturunan ku dari perkara2 yg engkau benci...peliharalah iman kami Ya Allah...aminn...
sekian lah cerita semalam yg kelakar la juga dgr citer dia tp disebalik hati tu tersingkap satu keazaman...mudah2an insyaallah...pelan2 kayuh hajar...hehe...
